This week’s parshah, Vayishlach, describes Ya’akov’s reconciliation with his brother Esav.\u00a0\u00a0 What we learn from this parshah is how a change in optics – from being seen to seeing – is a key to Ya’akov’s maturation as a leader.\u00a0 \u00a0As Ya’akov prepares to encounter his brother after 21 years, he has in mind their conflicted childhood.\u00a0 Ya’akov took advantage of his older brother’s hunger to purchase his birthright for a bowl of soup; then, through his mother’s handling, Ya’akov wrested the blessing of the first born from his brother.\u00a0 In Ya’akov’s mind, Esav surely holds a grudge against him, one that could only have festered over the years.\u00a0\u00a0 As he prepares to encounter Esav, he sends messengers with gifts and bounty hoping “to find favour” in his brother’s “eyes.”\u00a0 Ya’akov’s main concern is how his brother sees him; he has built up in his imagination a clear picture of this.\u00a0 How often do we do the same thing?\u00a0 Create in our own imaginations an image of how we are perceived by others, and work tirelessly to “find favour in the eyes” of the other. \u00a0\u00a0In the night, as he awaits his brother, Ya’akov encounters a mysterious figure with whom he wrestles.\u00a0 Ya’akov refuses to let the figure go until he receives from him a blessing.\u00a0 The figure’s identity remains a mystery – Esav’s guardian angel?\u00a0 Ya’akov’s own conscience?\u00a0 A dream concerning his relationship with his father? What is clear is that the wrestling match is a rite of passage through which Ya’akov gains strength and confidence that he is truly deserved of the blessing that he received previously through deceit.\u00a0 As the figure departs, Ya’akov declares, I will name this place Peniel (The Face of God) for I have seen Divinity face to face.\u00a0 Ya’akov then “raises his eyes” and sees Esav approaching.\u00a0\u00a0 Against all anticipation, Esav embraces his brother and kisses him.\u00a0 All, apparently, has been forgiven.\u00a0 Ya’akov still insists on giving Esav his gifts, stating, “I see your face as one sees the face of God,” \u00a0Ya’akov has transformed from one who was concerned with how his brother would see him, to one who is concerned with how he sees his brother.\u00a0 His way of seeing has gone from a narcissistic “concern with being seen,” to a responsibility of “seeing” another person in the image of God.<\/p>\n
This Shabbat, may we all practice turning our energies away from concern with how we are seen by others, to concern with how we see others.<\/p>\n
Shabbat Shalom,<\/p>\n
Moreh Greg<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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