{"id":25890,"date":"2022-12-23T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-12-23T15:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.torontoheschel.org\/?p=25890"},"modified":"2022-12-23T13:53:03","modified_gmt":"2022-12-23T18:53:03","slug":"admit-when-youve-done-something-to-hurt-someone","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.torontoheschel.org\/news-views\/blog\/admit-when-youve-done-something-to-hurt-someone","title":{"rendered":"Admit when you\u2019ve done something to hurt someone"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>This week\u2019s Middat HaShavuah is taken from our Torah portion, Parshat Miketz. The Middah is:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Key Verse: \u05d0\u05b2\u05e9\u05b5\u05c1\u05de\u05b4\u05d9\u05dd \u05d0\u05b2\u05e0\u05b7\u05d7\u05b0\u05e0\u05d5\u05bc \u05e2\u05b7\u05dc-\u05d0\u05b8\u05d7\u05b4\u05d9\u05e0\u05d5\u05bc&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u05d1\u05e8\u05d0\u05e9\u05d9\u05ea \u05de\u05d1:\u05db\u05d0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Middah: Admit when you\u2019ve done something to hurt someone<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This week\u2019s Parsha begins with Joseph interpreting Pharaoh&#8217;s dreams. As a result of his favorable interpretation, Joseph is assigned to be second in command of Egypt &#8211; only Pharaoh is of higher rank. In time, Joseph\u2019s brothers find themselves in Egypt, and come to Joseph for food. The brothers do not recognize Joseph. Joseph tests his brothers to see if they have changed.&nbsp; At this time, Joseph\u2019s brothers finally admit to themselves that they hurt Joseph: \u201cAnd they said to one another, \u2018we are guilty concerning our brother; we saw the pain of his soul but we did not listen.\u201d (Gen 42:21)&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I had written previously that \u201csorry seems to be the hardest word\u201d (see September 29th: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.torontoheschel.org\/news-views\/blog\/message-from-moreh-alan\">https:\/\/www.torontoheschel.org\/news-views\/blog\/message-from-moreh-alan<\/a>). But before we apologize and ask for forgiveness, we have to recognize that we have done something wrong and that we have hurt somebody. Psychologists think that while it is difficult, learning to deal with admitting fault is extremely important to sustaining relationships and personal growth.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What are some reactions you can have to making a mistake? For one, you first need to become aware of it. Some people do not possess the self-awareness necessary to know that they have wronged people, or that they have misjudged a situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Additionally, not admitting to making mistakes limits one\u2019s ability for self-improvement. In fact, some studies have shown that it\u2019s important for a person to feel as if he\/she can change his\/her behavior before owning up to making a mistake.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It appears as though there are some who go through life never admitting their mistakes. &nbsp; However, psychologists believe that even these people do indeed accumulate subconscious feelings of guilt and shame, which may eventually turn into anxiety and depression.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Admitting that you made a mistake may not always feel good, but it can show others that you are compassionate, empathetic, sympathetic, and a good listener. It also shows that you are capable of being objective about yourself,&nbsp; and that you are not \u2018perfect\u2019 or always right.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, if you have done something that you aren\u2019t proud of, go ahead and admit that you were wrong. Just like Joseph\u2019s brothers, it can feel liberating and put you and everyone in your life on a path towards a better future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Shabbat Shalom VeChag Urim Sameach!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Moreh Alan<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This week\u2019s Middat HaShavuah is taken from our Torah portion, Parshat Miketz. 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